Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Searching For Peace

Something my best friend at work sent me today, apparently often misattributed to Maya Angelou but actually written by Pamela Redmond Satran. Poor Pamela, because she should get credit for making some sense.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
enough
money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
something perfect to wear
if the employer, or date of her dreams
wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD
HAVE ..
a youth she's content to leave behind....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
a past
juicy enough that she's looking forward
to retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and...
a black lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
one friend who always makes her laugh..
and one who lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a good piece of furniture
not previously owned by anyone else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
a feeling of control
over her destiny..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD
KNOW..
how to fall in love
without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend,
without ruining the friendship..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
when to try harder...
and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that her childhood may not have been perfect...
but it's over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do...
for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to live alone...
even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY
WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go....
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods....
when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month... and a year...

Reading it, I don't think I have nearly everything I should, but I'm still learning and at least now, I have a checklist and I'm working on it, starting with the black lace bra.

1 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's a pretty good list to start with.

(The author also wrote an update of the list http://www.glamour.com/magazine/2007/02/things-women-should-have-and-know-by-30)

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